Family - Let's adapt to reflect our realities
"You come from a broken family." That's a line I am so accustomed to hearing over 2 decades that I really started believing it in my subconscious mind. It ate away at me every time - no matter where, when or who said it. The stigma around a single-parent household has been so traumatizing that as an adult I struggle to deal with social and relationship anxiety. Very recently I was prompted to think over why this affected me so much, and why I felt compelled to believe that I hail from a 'broken family'.
Were you one of those people who grew up believing that you knew the mathematical formula for what the society calls a 'family'? Did your formula look like:
Family = Husband + Wife + kid(s)
If the answer is yes, I wouldn't be surprised because honestly that's the image society put in our heads ever since we were little kids. But it is time that we took a pause, looked around and asked - Is this really what a family means?
If we were to look around us today, we will see that the diversity in family living arrangements has increased a lot since the early 1960s. The reasons are multifold:
- With non-marital cohabitation on the rise we are more likely to find family structures that in many cases continue to evolve throughout a child's life.
- Single-parent households resulting from death or divorce are more common than before. The likelihood of a child born to a married couple growing up in a home with those two parents is less common today than it used to be.
- As society's acceptance for same-sex couples continues to increase, these families challenge the traditional idea of what a 'family' should look like.
- With an increase in adoptions by choice, or due to challenges associated with infertility we get to see diversity within a family.
- Some couples choose to not have kids by choice, but instead are content living life by themselves. Some find happiness in being a pet-parent or a plant-parent.
- Individuals choose to not be in a relationship or to not marry, but instead enjoy single life with some choosing to be a pet-parent or a plant-parent.
- Due to unfortunate and/or unforeseen circumstances kids grow up with grandparents, relatives, etc.
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